BEGIN:VCALENDAR VERSION:2.0 PRODID:-//Jewish Grandparents Network - ECPv6.17.5.1//NONSGML v1.0//EN CALSCALE:GREGORIAN METHOD:PUBLISH X-ORIGINAL-URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org X-WR-CALDESC:Events for Jewish Grandparents Network REFRESH-INTERVAL;VALUE=DURATION:PT1H X-Robots-Tag:noindex X-PUBLISHED-TTL:PT1H BEGIN:VTIMEZONE TZID:America/New_York BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20210314T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20211107T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20220313T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20221106T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20230312T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20231105T060000 END:STANDARD END:VTIMEZONE BEGIN:VTIMEZONE TZID:UTC BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:+0000 TZOFFSETTO:+0000 TZNAME:UTC DTSTART:20210101T000000 END:STANDARD END:VTIMEZONE BEGIN:VTIMEZONE TZID:America/Halifax BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0300 TZNAME:ADT DTSTART:20210314T060000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0300 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:AST DTSTART:20211107T050000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0300 TZNAME:ADT DTSTART:20220313T060000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0300 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:AST DTSTART:20221106T050000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0300 TZNAME:ADT DTSTART:20230312T060000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0300 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:AST DTSTART:20231105T050000 END:STANDARD END:VTIMEZONE BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220504 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220505 DTSTAMP:20220116T200851Z CREATED:20220116T200851Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220116T200851Z UID:10000074-1651622400-1651708799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Yom Hazikaron (Israel Memorial Day) DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/yom-hazikaron-israel-memorial-day/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220505 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220506 DTSTAMP:20220116T200949Z CREATED:20220116T200949Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220116T200949Z UID:10000075-1651708800-1651795199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Yom Ha'atzmaut (Israel Independence Day) DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/yom-haatzmaut-israel-independence-day/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220507 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220508 DTSTAMP:20220425T150826Z CREATED:20220425T150154Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220425T150826Z UID:10000109-1651881600-1651967999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Kedoshim– family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-kedoshim-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220508 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220509 DTSTAMP:20220516T012924Z CREATED:20220516T012924Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220516T012924Z UID:10000114-1651968000-1652054399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Mother's Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/mothers-day-2/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220514 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220515 DTSTAMP:20220425T150727Z CREATED:20220425T150727Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220425T150727Z UID:10000110-1652486400-1652572799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Emor – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-emor-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220519 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220520 DTSTAMP:20220116T201405Z CREATED:20220116T201405Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220116T201405Z UID:10000076-1652918400-1653004799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Lag Ba'Omer DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/lag-baomer/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220521 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220522 DTSTAMP:20220531T162723Z CREATED:20220516T104758Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220531T162723Z UID:10000115-1653091200-1653177599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Behar – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-behar-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220524 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220525 DTSTAMP:20220516T012824Z CREATED:20220516T012636Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220516T012824Z UID:10000113-1653350400-1653436799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Grandparent Story Contest: Winning Submission Performed Live DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/grandparent-story-contest-winning-submission-performed-live/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220528 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220529 DTSTAMP:20220531T162553Z CREATED:20220516T104956Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220531T162553Z UID:10000116-1653696000-1653782399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Bechukotai – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-bechukotai-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220530 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220531 DTSTAMP:20220115T021206Z CREATED:20220115T021206Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220115T021206Z UID:10000066-1653868800-1653955199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Memorial Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/memorial-day/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220604 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220605 DTSTAMP:20220516T012218Z CREATED:20220516T012218Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220516T012218Z UID:10000111-1654300800-1654387199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Erev Shavuot DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/erev-shavuot/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220604 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220605 DTSTAMP:20220531T162333Z CREATED:20220531T162333Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220531T162333Z UID:10000118-1654300800-1654387199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Bamidbar– family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-bamidbar-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220605 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220606 DTSTAMP:20220127T164442Z CREATED:20220116T202113Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220127T164442Z UID:10000077-1654387200-1654473599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Shavuot DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/shavuot/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220606 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220607 DTSTAMP:20220516T012300Z CREATED:20220516T012300Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220516T012300Z UID:10000112-1654473600-1654559999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Shavuot 2nd day (traditional communities) DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/shavuot-2nd-day-traditional-communities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220611 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220612 DTSTAMP:20220531T162943Z CREATED:20220531T162943Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220531T162943Z UID:10000119-1654905600-1654991999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Naso– family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-naso-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/Halifax:20220614T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/Halifax:20220614T200000 DTSTAMP:20220601T211305Z CREATED:20220526T191828Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220601T211305Z UID:10000117-1655233200-1655236800@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Family Room Live! How Grandparents Can Create a Family Culture of Giving to Others DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/family-room-live-how-grandparents-can-create-a-family-culture-of-tzedakah/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220616 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220617 DTSTAMP:20220614T192223Z CREATED:20220614T191248Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220614T192223Z UID:10000122-1655337600-1655423999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Be'ha'alotecha– family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-behaalotecha-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220619 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220620 DTSTAMP:20220226T202249Z CREATED:20220226T202249Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220226T202249Z UID:10000030-1655596800-1655683199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Father's Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/fathers-day/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220625 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220626 DTSTAMP:20220617T204831Z CREATED:20220617T204831Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220617T204831Z UID:10000123-1656115200-1656201599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Shelach– family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-shelach-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220702 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220703 DTSTAMP:20220617T205059Z CREATED:20220617T205059Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220617T205059Z UID:10000124-1656720000-1656806399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Korach – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-korach-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220704 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220705 DTSTAMP:20220116T202234Z CREATED:20220116T202234Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220116T202234Z UID:10000078-1656892800-1656979199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Independence Day (July 4) DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/independence-day-july-4/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220709 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220710 DTSTAMP:20220617T205356Z CREATED:20220617T205356Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220617T205356Z UID:10000125-1657324800-1657411199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Chukat – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-chukat-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220905 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220906 DTSTAMP:20220127T181117Z CREATED:20220127T181117Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220127T181117Z UID:10000088-1662336000-1662422399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Labor Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/labor-day-2/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220911 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220912 DTSTAMP:20220217T192429Z CREATED:20220217T192429Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220217T192429Z UID:10000024-1662854400-1662940799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Grandparents Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/grandparents-day/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220913T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220913T200000 DTSTAMP:20220812T162745Z CREATED:20220812T162427Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220812T162745Z UID:10000047-1663095600-1663099200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Family Room Live! Grandparents\, Bring the High Holidays to Life for Grandchildren DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/family-room-live-grandparents-bring-the-high-holidays-to-life/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220925 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220926 DTSTAMP:20220601T211726Z CREATED:20220601T211639Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220601T211726Z UID:10000120-1664064000-1664150399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Erev Rosh Hashanah DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/erev-rosh-hashanah-2/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220926 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220928 DTSTAMP:20220927T134938Z CREATED:20220127T164830Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220927T134938Z UID:10000079-1664150400-1664323199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Rosh Hashanah DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/rosh-hashanah/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/webp:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/flat-design-rosh-hashanah-concept_23-2148616345.webp END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221005 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221006 DTSTAMP:20220927T135000Z CREATED:20220127T165004Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220927T135000Z UID:10000080-1664928000-1665014399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Yom Kippur DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/yom-kippur-2/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/webp:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/realistic-yom-kippur-with-horn-with-food_23-2148640512.webp END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221010 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221017 DTSTAMP:20220927T135019Z CREATED:20220127T180145Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220927T135019Z UID:10000081-1665360000-1665964799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Sukkot DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/sukkot-2/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/png:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/placeholder3.png END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221017 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221018 DTSTAMP:20221012T193404Z CREATED:20220127T180448Z LAST-MODIFIED:20221012T193404Z UID:10000082-1665964800-1666051199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Shemini Atzeret and Simchat Torah DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/shemini-atzeret-and-simchat-torah/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Kid-with-Torah-scroll-e1665602954555.jpg END:VEVENT END:VCALENDAR