BEGIN:VCALENDAR VERSION:2.0 PRODID:-//Jewish Grandparents Network - ECPv6.17.5.1//NONSGML v1.0//EN CALSCALE:GREGORIAN METHOD:PUBLISH X-ORIGINAL-URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org X-WR-CALDESC:Events for Jewish Grandparents Network REFRESH-INTERVAL;VALUE=DURATION:PT1H X-Robots-Tag:noindex X-PUBLISHED-TTL:PT1H BEGIN:VTIMEZONE TZID:America/New_York BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20200308T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20201101T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20210314T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20211107T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20220313T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20221106T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20230312T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20231105T060000 END:STANDARD END:VTIMEZONE BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220117 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220118 DTSTAMP:20220116T200018Z CREATED:20220114T211147Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220116T200018Z UID:10000061-1642377600-1642463999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Martin Luther King Jr. Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/martin-luther-king-jr-day/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220117 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220118 DTSTAMP:20230127T030053Z CREATED:20220114T211036Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230127T030053Z UID:10000059-1642377600-1642463999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Tu BiShvat DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/tu-bishvat/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220115 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220116 DTSTAMP:20220115T204713Z CREATED:20220115T204713Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220115T204713Z UID:10000068-1642204800-1642291199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Play-Along Parsha: Beshalach DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/play-along-parsha-beshalach/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220115 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220116 DTSTAMP:20211214T235948Z CREATED:20211214T235640Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211214T235948Z UID:10000055-1642204800-1642291199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Family Torah learning with Hadar’s Devash: Beshallach DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/family-torah-learning-with-hadars-devash-beshallah/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220111T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220111T200000 DTSTAMP:20211214T235741Z CREATED:20211210T145240Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211214T235741Z UID:10000043-1641927600-1641931200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Raising Resilient Kids In A Stressed-Out World: How Grandparents Can Play A Role DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/raising-resilient-kids-in-a-stressed-out-world-how-grandparents-can-play-a-role/ ORGANIZER;CN="Jewish Grandparents Network":MAILTO:info@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220108 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220109 DTSTAMP:20220115T204539Z CREATED:20220115T204539Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220115T204539Z UID:10000067-1641600000-1641686399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Play-Along Parsha: Bo DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/play-along-parsha-bo/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220108 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220109 DTSTAMP:20211214T235349Z CREATED:20211214T235349Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211214T235349Z UID:10000053-1641600000-1641686399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Family Torah learning with Hadar’s Devash: Bo DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/family-torah-learning-with-hadars-devash-bo/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220101 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220102 DTSTAMP:20211218T150935Z CREATED:20211218T150935Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211218T150935Z UID:10000057-1640995200-1641081599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Play-Along Parsha: Va'era DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/play-along-parsha-vaera/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220101 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220102 DTSTAMP:20211214T235254Z CREATED:20211214T235254Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211214T235254Z UID:10000051-1640995200-1641081599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Family Torah learning with Hadar’s Devash: Va'era DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/family-torah-learning-with-hadars-devash-vaera/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220101 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220102 DTSTAMP:20210804T155443Z CREATED:20210726T191623Z LAST-MODIFIED:20210804T155443Z UID:10000025-1640995200-1641081599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:New Year’s Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/new-years-day/ CATEGORIES:Holidays ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/png:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/new-years-day.png END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211225 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211226 DTSTAMP:20211214T234347Z CREATED:20211214T234347Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211214T234347Z UID:10000046-1640390400-1640476799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Family Torah learning with Hadar’s Devash: Shemot DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/family-torah-learning-with-hadars-devash-shemot/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211225 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211226 DTSTAMP:20211214T233610Z CREATED:20211214T233610Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211214T233610Z UID:10000044-1640390400-1640476799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Play-Along Parsha Shemot DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/play-along-parsha-shemot/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211225 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211226 DTSTAMP:20210726T191555Z CREATED:20210726T191555Z LAST-MODIFIED:20210726T191555Z UID:10000023-1640390400-1640476799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Christmas DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/christmas/ CATEGORIES:Holidays END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211218 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211219 DTSTAMP:20211214T234211Z CREATED:20211214T234211Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211214T234211Z UID:10000045-1639785600-1639871999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Family Torah learning with Hadar's Devash: Vayehi DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/family-torah-learning-with-hadars-devash-vayehi/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211218 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211219 DTSTAMP:20211123T224539Z CREATED:20211123T224539Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211123T224539Z UID:10000041-1639785600-1639871999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Play-Along Parsha Vayichi DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/play-along-parsha-vayichi/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211211 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211212 DTSTAMP:20211123T224420Z CREATED:20211123T224420Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211123T224420Z UID:10000040-1639180800-1639267199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Play-Along Parsha Vayigash DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/play-along-parsha-vayigash/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20211207T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20211207T200000 DTSTAMP:20211123T224653Z CREATED:20211123T224653Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211123T224653Z UID:10000042-1638903600-1638907200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Inclusive Grandparenting — How We Fully Celebrate ALL Our Grandchildren DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/inclusive-grandparenting-how-we-fully-celebrate-all-our-grandchildren/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211204 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211205 DTSTAMP:20211123T222907Z CREATED:20211123T222752Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211123T222907Z UID:10000039-1638576000-1638662399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Play-Along Parsha Miketz DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/play-along-parsha-miketz/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20211129T080000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20211206T170000 DTSTAMP:20210726T191517Z CREATED:20210726T191517Z LAST-MODIFIED:20210726T191517Z UID:10000021-1638172800-1638810000@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Hanukkah DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/hanukkah/ CATEGORIES:Holidays END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211128 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211129 DTSTAMP:20210726T190614Z CREATED:20210726T190614Z LAST-MODIFIED:20210726T190614Z UID:10000019-1638057600-1638143999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:1st night Hanukkah DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/1st-night-hanukkah/ CATEGORIES:Holidays END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211127 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211128 DTSTAMP:20211108T184715Z CREATED:20211108T184715Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211108T184715Z UID:10000037-1637971200-1638057599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Play-Along Parsha Vayeshev DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/play-along-parsha-vayeshev/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211125 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211126 DTSTAMP:20211019T002324Z CREATED:20211019T002324Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211019T002324Z UID:10000027-1637798400-1637884799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Thanksgiving DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/thanksgiving/ CATEGORIES:Holidays END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211120 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211121 DTSTAMP:20211108T184533Z CREATED:20211108T184519Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211108T184533Z UID:10000035-1637366400-1637452799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Play-Along Parsha Vayishlach DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/play-along-parsha-vayishlach/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20211116T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20211116T200000 DTSTAMP:20211108T184004Z CREATED:20211108T184004Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211108T184004Z UID:10000031-1637089200-1637092800@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Grandma\, Grandpa Tell Me A Story live event DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/grandma-grandpa-tell-me-a-story-live-event/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20211113 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20211114 DTSTAMP:20211108T184333Z CREATED:20211108T184249Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211108T184333Z UID:10000033-1636761600-1636847999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Play-Along Parsha Vayeitzei DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/play-along-parsha-vayeitzei/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20211102T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20211102T200000 DTSTAMP:20211019T002829Z CREATED:20211019T002717Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211019T002829Z UID:10000029-1635879600-1635883200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:A Conversation with Dr. Lisa Miller DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/a-conversation-with-dr-lisa-miller/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20210929 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20210930 DTSTAMP:20210726T190536Z CREATED:20210726T190536Z LAST-MODIFIED:20210726T190536Z UID:10000018-1632873600-1632959999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Simchat Torah (Conservative) DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/simchat-torah-conservative/ CATEGORIES:Holidays END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20210928 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20210929 DTSTAMP:20221012T193203Z CREATED:20210726T190505Z LAST-MODIFIED:20221012T193203Z UID:10000017-1632787200-1632873599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Simchat Torah (Reform) DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/simchat-torah-reform/ CATEGORIES:Holidays ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Kid-with-Torah-scroll-e1665602954555.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20210921T080000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20210927T170000 DTSTAMP:20210726T190142Z CREATED:20210726T190142Z LAST-MODIFIED:20210726T190142Z UID:10000016-1632211200-1632762000@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Sukkot DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/sukkot/ CATEGORIES:Holidays END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20210920 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20210921 DTSTAMP:20210726T190035Z CREATED:20210726T190035Z LAST-MODIFIED:20210726T190035Z UID:10000015-1632096000-1632182399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Erev Sukkot DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/erev-sukkot/ CATEGORIES:Holidays END:VEVENT END:VCALENDAR