BEGIN:VCALENDAR VERSION:2.0 PRODID:-//Jewish Grandparents Network - ECPv6.17.5.1//NONSGML v1.0//EN CALSCALE:GREGORIAN METHOD:PUBLISH X-ORIGINAL-URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org X-WR-CALDESC:Events for Jewish Grandparents Network REFRESH-INTERVAL;VALUE=DURATION:PT1H X-Robots-Tag:noindex X-PUBLISHED-TTL:PT1H BEGIN:VTIMEZONE TZID:America/New_York BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20210314T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20211107T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20220313T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20221106T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20230312T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20231105T060000 END:STANDARD END:VTIMEZONE BEGIN:VTIMEZONE TZID:UTC BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:+0000 TZOFFSETTO:+0000 TZNAME:UTC DTSTART:20210101T000000 END:STANDARD END:VTIMEZONE BEGIN:VTIMEZONE TZID:America/New_York BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20210314T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20211107T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20220313T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20221106T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20230312T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20231105T060000 END:STANDARD END:VTIMEZONE BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220111T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220111T200000 DTSTAMP:20211214T235741Z CREATED:20211210T145240Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211214T235741Z UID:10000043-1641927600-1641931200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Raising Resilient Kids In A Stressed-Out World: How Grandparents Can Play A Role DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/raising-resilient-kids-in-a-stressed-out-world-how-grandparents-can-play-a-role/ ORGANIZER;CN="Jewish Grandparents Network":MAILTO:info@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220115 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220116 DTSTAMP:20211214T235948Z CREATED:20211214T235640Z LAST-MODIFIED:20211214T235948Z UID:10000055-1642204800-1642291199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Family Torah learning with Hadar’s Devash: Beshallach DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/family-torah-learning-with-hadars-devash-beshallah/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220115 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220116 DTSTAMP:20220115T204713Z CREATED:20220115T204713Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220115T204713Z UID:10000068-1642204800-1642291199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Play-Along Parsha: Beshalach DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/play-along-parsha-beshalach/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220117 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220118 DTSTAMP:20230127T030053Z CREATED:20220114T211036Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230127T030053Z UID:10000059-1642377600-1642463999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Tu BiShvat DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/tu-bishvat/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220117 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220118 DTSTAMP:20220116T200018Z CREATED:20220114T211147Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220116T200018Z UID:10000061-1642377600-1642463999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Martin Luther King Jr. Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/martin-luther-king-jr-day/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220122 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220123 DTSTAMP:20220115T210431Z CREATED:20220115T205518Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220115T210431Z UID:10000069-1642809600-1642895999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Yitro – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-yitro-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220129 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220130 DTSTAMP:20220204T012822Z CREATED:20220115T205751Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220204T012822Z UID:10000070-1643414400-1643500799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Mishpatim – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-mishpatim-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220205 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220206 DTSTAMP:20220204T013022Z CREATED:20220115T205954Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220204T013022Z UID:10000071-1644019200-1644105599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Terumah – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-terumah-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220212 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220213 DTSTAMP:20220211T015519Z CREATED:20220115T210632Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220211T015519Z UID:10000072-1644624000-1644710399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Tetzaveh – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-tetzaveh-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220215T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220215T200000 DTSTAMP:20220115T210304Z CREATED:20220115T020442Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220115T210304Z UID:10000065-1644951600-1644955200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Family Room Live! What Grandparents Need to Know About Teens and Mental Health DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/family-room-live-what-grandparents-need-to-know-about-teens-and-mental-health/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220216T170000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220216T183000 DTSTAMP:20220127T181613Z CREATED:20220127T181613Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220127T181613Z UID:10000098-1645030800-1645036200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Hadar's Learning with Grandparents session DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/hadars-learning-with-grandparents-session/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220219 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220220 DTSTAMP:20220217T020027Z CREATED:20220211T015746Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220217T020027Z UID:10000020-1645228800-1645315199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Ki Tisa – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-ki-tisa-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220221 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220222 DTSTAMP:20220115T020124Z CREATED:20220115T020124Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220115T020124Z UID:10000064-1645401600-1645487999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Presidents Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/presidents-day/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220226 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220227 DTSTAMP:20220217T020318Z CREATED:20220215T123123Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220217T020318Z UID:10000022-1645833600-1645919999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Vayakhel – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-vayakhel-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220305 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220306 DTSTAMP:20220301T171521Z CREATED:20220301T170831Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220301T171521Z UID:10000034-1646438400-1646524799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Pekudei – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-pekudei-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220306T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220306T200000 DTSTAMP:20220303T142934Z CREATED:20220303T142934Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220303T142934Z UID:10000101-1646593200-1646596800@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:War in Ukraine What Should We Know and How Should We Talk to Our Grandchildren About It DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/war-in-ukraine-what-should-we-know-and-how-should-we-talk-to-our-grandchildren-about-it/ LOCATION: END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220312 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220313 DTSTAMP:20220301T171126Z CREATED:20220301T171126Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220301T171126Z UID:10000036-1647043200-1647129599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Vayikra – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-vayikra-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220315T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220315T203000 DTSTAMP:20220301T175908Z CREATED:20220301T160559Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220301T175908Z UID:10000032-1647370800-1647376200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Creating Safe & Affirming Spaces for Our Grandchildren: Addressing Racism\, Transphobia\, and Lack of Disabilities Inclusion in Our Communities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/creating-safe-affirming-spaces-for-our-grandchildren-addressing-racism-transphobia-and-lack-of-disabilities-inclusion-in-our-communities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220316 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220317 DTSTAMP:20220223T132505Z CREATED:20220223T132505Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220223T132505Z UID:10000026-1647388800-1647475199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Erev Purim DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/erev-purim/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220317 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220318 DTSTAMP:20220115T020042Z CREATED:20220115T020042Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220115T020042Z UID:10000063-1647475200-1647561599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Purim DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/purim/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220319 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220320 DTSTAMP:20220326T203429Z CREATED:20220326T203416Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220326T203429Z UID:10000104-1647648000-1647734399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Tzav – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-tzav-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220326 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220327 DTSTAMP:20220326T203232Z CREATED:20220326T203026Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220326T203232Z UID:10000103-1648252800-1648339199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Shemini – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-shemini-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220326T120744 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220326T120744 DTSTAMP:20220226T202219Z CREATED:20220226T202219Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220226T202219Z UID:10000028-1648296464-1648296464@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Mother's Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/mothers-day/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220329T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220329T200000 DTSTAMP:20220324T153137Z CREATED:20220323T113733Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220324T153137Z UID:10000102-1648580400-1648584000@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Grandparents\, Bring Your Family Seder to Life DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/grandparents-bring-your-family-seder-to-life/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220330T160000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220330T170000 DTSTAMP:20220301T175545Z CREATED:20220301T175423Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220301T175545Z UID:10000100-1648656000-1648659600@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Q&A Session for Creating Safe & Affirming Spaces for Our Grandchildren: Addressing Racism\, Transphobia\, and Lack of Disabilities Inclusion in Our Communities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/qa-session-for-creating-safe-affirming-spaces-for-our-grandchildren-addressing-racism-transphobia-and-lack-of-disabilities-inclusion-in-our-communities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220402 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220403 DTSTAMP:20220326T203619Z CREATED:20220326T203619Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220326T203619Z UID:10000105-1648857600-1648943999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Tazria – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-tazria-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220404T160000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220404T170000 DTSTAMP:20220301T175122Z CREATED:20220301T173444Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220301T175122Z UID:10000038-1649088000-1649091600@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:L’Dor Va’Dor: Affirming and Loving Your Transgender\, Non-Binary\, and Gender Expansive Grandchildren DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/ldor-vador-affirming-and-loving-your-transgender-non-binary-and-gender-expansive-grandchildren/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220409 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220410 DTSTAMP:20220419T132910Z CREATED:20220419T132910Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220419T132910Z UID:10000107-1649462400-1649548799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Parashat Hashavua (Portion of the Week) Metzora – family activities DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/parashat-hashavua-portion-of-the-week-metzora-family-activities/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20220413T130000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20220413T140000 DTSTAMP:20220301T174356Z CREATED:20220301T174320Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220301T174356Z UID:10000099-1649854800-1649858400@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Q&A Session for L’Dor Va’Dor: Affirming and Loving Your Transgender\, Non-Binary\, and Gender Expansive Grandchildren DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/optional-qa-session-for-ldor-vador-affirming-and-loving-your-transgender-non-binary-and-gender-expansive-grandchildren/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=UTC:20220426T190000 DTEND;TZID=UTC:20220426T200000 DTSTAMP:20220405T144923Z CREATED:20220405T144749Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220405T144923Z UID:10000106-1650999600-1651003200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Why Your Grandchildren Need Great Role Models DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/why-your-grandchildren-need-great-role-models/ END:VEVENT END:VCALENDAR