BEGIN:VCALENDAR VERSION:2.0 PRODID:-//Jewish Grandparents Network - ECPv6.17.5.1//NONSGML v1.0//EN CALSCALE:GREGORIAN METHOD:PUBLISH X-ORIGINAL-URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org X-WR-CALDESC:Events for Jewish Grandparents Network REFRESH-INTERVAL;VALUE=DURATION:PT1H X-Robots-Tag:noindex X-PUBLISHED-TTL:PT1H BEGIN:VTIMEZONE TZID:America/New_York BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20210314T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20211107T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20220313T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20221106T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20230312T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20231105T060000 END:STANDARD BEGIN:DAYLIGHT TZOFFSETFROM:-0500 TZOFFSETTO:-0400 TZNAME:EDT DTSTART:20240310T070000 END:DAYLIGHT BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:-0400 TZOFFSETTO:-0500 TZNAME:EST DTSTART:20241103T060000 END:STANDARD END:VTIMEZONE BEGIN:VTIMEZONE TZID:UTC BEGIN:STANDARD TZOFFSETFROM:+0000 TZOFFSETTO:+0000 TZNAME:UTC DTSTART:20210101T000000 END:STANDARD END:VTIMEZONE BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20220926 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20220928 DTSTAMP:20220927T134938Z CREATED:20220127T164830Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220927T134938Z UID:10000079-1664150400-1664323199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Rosh Hashanah DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/rosh-hashanah/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/webp:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/flat-design-rosh-hashanah-concept_23-2148616345.webp END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221005 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221006 DTSTAMP:20220927T135000Z CREATED:20220127T165004Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220927T135000Z UID:10000080-1664928000-1665014399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Yom Kippur DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/yom-kippur-2/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/webp:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/realistic-yom-kippur-with-horn-with-food_23-2148640512.webp END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221010 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221017 DTSTAMP:20220927T135019Z CREATED:20220127T180145Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220927T135019Z UID:10000081-1665360000-1665964799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Sukkot DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/sukkot-2/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/png:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/placeholder3.png END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221017 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221018 DTSTAMP:20221012T193404Z CREATED:20220127T180448Z LAST-MODIFIED:20221012T193404Z UID:10000082-1665964800-1666051199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Shemini Atzeret and Simchat Torah DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/shemini-atzeret-and-simchat-torah/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Kid-with-Torah-scroll-e1665602954555.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221018 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221019 DTSTAMP:20220722T003527Z CREATED:20220722T003527Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220722T003527Z UID:10000126-1666051200-1666137599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Simchat Torah (Conservative) DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/simchat-torah-conservative-2/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20221025T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20221025T200000 DTSTAMP:20221022T005856Z CREATED:20220921T130757Z LAST-MODIFIED:20221022T005856Z UID:10000048-1666724400-1666728000@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Family Room Live! How to Talk with Your Grandchildren About... Almost Anything DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/family-room-live-how-to-talk-with-your-grandchildren-about-almost-anything/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Harriet-Wolpoff-3-curtesy-of-True-Photography-Video-1.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221108 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221109 DTSTAMP:20220613T180609Z CREATED:20220613T180609Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220613T180609Z UID:10000121-1667865600-1667951999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Election Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/election-day/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20221122T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20221122T200000 DTSTAMP:20221107T162718Z CREATED:20221103T124707Z LAST-MODIFIED:20221107T162718Z UID:10000050-1669143600-1669147200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:How Feeling Thankful Builds Stronger Family Connections DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/how-feeling-thankful-builds-stronger-family-connections/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/How-Feeling-Thankful-Builds-Stronger-Family-Connections-500x500px.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221124 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221125 DTSTAMP:20221109T122109Z CREATED:20221026T200747Z LAST-MODIFIED:20221109T122109Z UID:10000049-1669248000-1669334399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Thanksgiving DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/thanksgiving-2/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Thanksgiving-2022.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20221129T160000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20221129T170000 DTSTAMP:20221111T192349Z CREATED:20221111T192349Z LAST-MODIFIED:20221111T192349Z UID:10000054-1669737600-1669741200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:L'Dor Va'Dor: Affirming and Loving Your Transgender\, Non-Binary\, and Gender Expansive Grandchildren DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/ldor-vador-affirming-and-loving-your-transgender-non-binary-and-gender-expansive-grandchildren-2/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/November-29th-FR-Live-Event.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20221201T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20221201T200000 DTSTAMP:20221107T162753Z CREATED:20221107T162753Z LAST-MODIFIED:20221107T162753Z UID:10000052-1669921200-1669924800@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:How to Bring Hanukkah to Life for Grandchildren DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/how-to-bring-hanukkah-to-life-for-grandchildren/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Jonathan-Shmidt-Chapmans-Hanukkah-500x500px.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20221215T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20221215T203000 DTSTAMP:20221111T194031Z CREATED:20221111T194031Z LAST-MODIFIED:20221111T194031Z UID:10000056-1671130800-1671136200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Creating Safe & Affirming Spaces for Our Grandchildren DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/creating-safe-affirming-spaces-for-our-grandchildren/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/December-15th-FR-Live-Event.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221218 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221219 DTSTAMP:20220217T191533Z CREATED:20220127T180559Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220217T191533Z UID:10000083-1671321600-1671407999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Light 1st Hanukkah candle tonight DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/light-1st-hanukkah-candle-tonight/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221219 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221227 DTSTAMP:20221107T220206Z CREATED:20220127T180854Z LAST-MODIFIED:20221107T220206Z UID:10000084-1671408000-1672099199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Hanukkah DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/hanukkah-2/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Hanukkah-2022.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221225 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221226 DTSTAMP:20220127T180930Z CREATED:20220127T180930Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220127T180930Z UID:10000085-1671926400-1672012799@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Christmas DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/christmas-2/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20221226 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20221227 DTSTAMP:20220127T181038Z CREATED:20220127T181038Z LAST-MODIFIED:20220127T181038Z UID:10000086-1672012800-1672099199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Christmas Day observed DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/christmas-day-observed/ END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20230110T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20230110T200000 DTSTAMP:20221130T225444Z CREATED:20221130T152828Z LAST-MODIFIED:20221130T225444Z UID:10000058-1673377200-1673380800@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:How to Talk with your Preteen and Teen Grandchildren about Antisemitism DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/how-to-talk-to-your-preteen-and-teen-grandchildren-about-antisemitism/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/How-to-Talk-to-your-Preteen-and-Teen-Grandchildren-about-Antisemitism.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20230131T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20230131T200000 DTSTAMP:20230130T153451Z CREATED:20230102T184219Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230130T153451Z UID:10000060-1675191600-1675195200@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Our Adult Children's Voices Matter: What Parents Want Grandparents to Know DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/our-adult-childrens-voices-matter-what-parents-want-grandparents-to-know/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/Our-Adult-Childrens-Voices-Matter_350x350px.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20230206 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20230207 DTSTAMP:20230130T152856Z CREATED:20230130T125302Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230130T152856Z UID:10000128-1675641600-1675727999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Tu BiShvat DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/tu-bishvat-2/ CATEGORIES:Holidays ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/Tu-BiShvat_350x350px.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20230221T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20230221T200000 DTSTAMP:20230301T173829Z CREATED:20230124T162625Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230301T173829Z UID:10000127-1677006000-1677009600@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:How to Bring Purim to Life for Grandchildren DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/how-to-bring-purim-to-life-for-grandchildren/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/How-to-Bring-Purim-to-Life-for-Granchildren_350x350px.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20230307 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20230308 DTSTAMP:20230130T152740Z CREATED:20230123T204905Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230130T152740Z UID:10000062-1678147200-1678233599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Purim DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/purim-2/ CATEGORIES:Holidays ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/Purim_March-7th-2023_350x350px.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20230328T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20230328T200000 DTSTAMP:20230315T145906Z CREATED:20230301T173915Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230315T145906Z UID:10000133-1680030000-1680033600@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:How to Bring Passover to Life for Grandchildren DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/how-to-bring-passover-to-life-for-grandchildren/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/How-to-Bring-Passover-to-Life-for-Grandchildren-2.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20230405 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20230406 DTSTAMP:20230315T160531Z CREATED:20230223T170223Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230315T160531Z UID:10000129-1680652800-1680739199@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Passover\, first seder DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/passover-first-seder/ CATEGORIES:Holidays ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Passover_first-seder_4.5.23.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20230406 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20230407 DTSTAMP:20230322T180425Z CREATED:20230223T170454Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230322T180425Z UID:10000130-1680739200-1680825599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Passover\, first day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/passover-first-day/ CATEGORIES:Holidays ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Passover_first-day_4.6.23.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20230412 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20230413 DTSTAMP:20230223T170605Z CREATED:20230223T170605Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230223T170605Z UID:10000131-1681257600-1681343999@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Passover\, last day (Reform) DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/passover-last-day-reform-2/ CATEGORIES:Holidays END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20230413 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20230414 DTSTAMP:20230223T170824Z CREATED:20230223T170824Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230223T170824Z UID:10000132-1681344000-1681430399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Passover\, last day (Conservative) DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/passover-last-day-conservative-2/ CATEGORIES:Holidays END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20230418 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20230419 DTSTAMP:20230410T185212Z CREATED:20230410T185212Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230410T185212Z UID:10000135-1681776000-1681862399@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Yom Hashoah\, Holocaust Remembrance Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/yom-hashoah-holocaust-remembrance-day/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Yom-Hashoah-Holocaust-Remembrance-Day_April-26-2023.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20230418T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20230418T200000 DTSTAMP:20230424T010411Z CREATED:20230322T200414Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230424T010411Z UID:10000134-1681844400-1681848000@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:How to Navigate Family Relationships: Jewish Tools That Can Help DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/how-to-navigate-family-relationships-jewish-tools-that-can-help/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/How-to-navigate-family-relationships_Jewish-tools-that-can-help_4.18.23.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;VALUE=DATE:20230426 DTEND;VALUE=DATE:20230427 DTSTAMP:20230410T185702Z CREATED:20230410T185702Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230410T185702Z UID:10000136-1682467200-1682553599@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:Israel’s Independence Day DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/israels-independence-day/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Israels-Independence-Day_April-26-2023.jpg END:VEVENT BEGIN:VEVENT DTSTART;TZID=America/New_York:20230509T190000 DTEND;TZID=America/New_York:20230509T200000 DTSTAMP:20230426T160908Z CREATED:20230424T010538Z LAST-MODIFIED:20230426T160908Z UID:10000137-1683658800-1683662400@jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org SUMMARY:The Torah of Being a Grandparent: How We Live our Values DESCRIPTION:Situation: Social Status vs. Supporting a Classmate \n \n \n \n There’s a new student in school who is struggling to make friends. You’ve recently moved up socially and while you feel bad for this student\, you don’t want to risk your social status by reaching out beyond your circle. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Jewish Wisdom: Rachamim\, רחמים\, Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n “Be similar to Adonai\, just as Adonai is compassionate and merciful\, so too should you be compassionate and merciful.” (Babylonian Talmud\, Shabbat 133b) Welcoming a new peer is one way to turn compassion into action. “God is good to all\, and divine mercy is upon all God’s works.” (Psalm 145:9) Mercy is for all: those we know and those we don’t know. Reaching out to a new student having a hard time fitting in shows care\, kindness\, and compassion. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Building Skills and Character: Compassion\, Mercy \n \n \n \n Discuss the tension between wanting to belong and wanting to help someone else belong. \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Talk about it.  \n \n \n \n Grandparent: Think of a time when you were the new person. What or who helped you feel welcome?What do you think the new student might be experiencing at school right now?Why might reaching out to the student who is not fitting in feel risky to your new social status?What might change for you socially if you reach out? Think about your friendship with your new social group as well as a possible friendship with the new student.What is the difference between feeling sorry for someone and having compassion for them? \n \n \n \n Teen grandchild: Can you tell me about a time when you had a hard time feeling you belonged in a social or professional setting? When you were growing up\, did you ever include someone even though it wasn’t the easiest or most popular choice? What did “social status” mean when you were in high school? \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Brainstorm possible “mensch moves.” \n \n \n \n For example:\n\n Invite the new student to participate in an activity or group\, such as an afterschool club or trying out for a sports team\, without making a big deal of it. (A lunch invite might feel too risky at first.)\n Talk with the student one-on-one to get to know them better so that you can find out their interests and learn about their friends outside of school\, or challenges in school\, all with the goal of getting to know them and helping them fit in.\n Introduce the student to someone who might have something in common with them. For example\, if you find out that they like Dungeons and Dragons\, try to connect them to someone you know who shares that interest.\n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n \n Grandparent Note: Remind your teen that compassion doesn’t necessarily mean you have to become the student’s best friend or even risk other friendships. A small act of kindness such as a conversation\, an invitation\, or just sitting next to a person can help them feel welcome. In doing so\, your grandchild can be a model for their peers. Erica N. Hruby\, M.A. is a tween/teen expert with over 30 years of professional experience working directly with parents\, grandparents\, and tweens/teens in Jewish community\, academic\, and residential environments. She is the founder of Anchored Parenting\, LLC. Photograph courtesy of Pexels URL:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/event/the-torah-of-being-a-grandparent-how-we-live-our-values/ ATTACH;FMTTYPE=image/jpeg:https://jewishgrandparentsnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/The-Torah-of-Being-a-Grandparent_How-We-Live-our-Values.jpg END:VEVENT END:VCALENDAR